The Power of Repatterning
Marlene Marie Prinzing, MA
Jane was late for our initial healing session. She called and told me, “I got into another car accident on the way to our session—the seventh accident in the past ten years.” Sounding discouraged, she said, “I’m going home now.”
I said, “NO! We need to STOP this dangerous pattern now.” She agreed and had a friend drive her to our session. It was the best decision of her life, as it turns out. Upon Jane’s arrival, I explained to her that two car accidents are a coincidence; three is a pattern. She agreed with me but asked, “How are we going to STOP this pattern?”
I told Jane that as with all patterns of this type, the unconscious destructive pattern is simply stored in her tissue memory. My conversation with Jane went like this:
Think back to when you learned how to ride a bike. As you learned to use the pedals, your body/tissue memory remembered. The good news is that you can reprogram negative tissue memory. Let’s begin with your “felt-sense” perception of the original accident. Where do you feel the memory in your body?
Now, tell me when was the first time you remember “feeling” this way? Is this body-memory familiar? Describe your body sensations to me. For example, do you feel sharp pain, dullness, cold, hot, uneasy, afraid, or sick to your stomach? I will now intuitively connect with that body sensation in your tissue memory, and I will ask that sensation what it needs.
The message I receive from your body tissue memory is that your body part feels guilty, almost like survivors’ guilt. The other message I receive from your body is that it is reliving the car accident memory in an attempt to change the resulting death that had originally occurred. The car accident that took the life of your husband was NOT your fault.
Jane began to sob and tremble.
Allow my hand to connect with and support this body part while welcoming your body’s tremble response. This is the body processing and releasing. Trust the massage table you are resting on; invite your body to drop into the table. How do you feel now?
Jane said, “I feel better, calmer, and exhausted.”
Good, this is normal. We have given your tissue memory what it needed, and you are experiencing old fatigue from your past traumas. Let’s give the body a minute or two to integrate and rest into its new equilibrium.
“I now feel like I have options,” Jane said, “and I feel like there is a higher purpose to this traumatic event; my body feels a sense of peace.”
Yes, this is an indication that your old trauma-trigger has diminished or lessened. How does your body feel?
“I feel grounded and safe,” Jane told me.
Now comes the fun part in your journey to reclaiming YOU! What do cars metaphorically represent to you?
“Um . . . they represent how I move forward, where I choose to go, and my independence.”
EXACTLY. How would you like to move forward in your life and what do you need to make that happen?
“I don’t know what I need!” Jane told me.
Great! That is clear and most likely true. How would you know what is missing? This is called a “gap.” A gap often occurs when we are missing basic needs in life. We can now fill in this gap and insert it into your tissue memory.
Let’s explore your early developmental years—ages conception to age eighteen—since this is where our strongest tissue memory imprints occur. As our body develops, our experiences become part of our tissue memory. We are searching for first time in your history when this “gap” occurred.
Let me ask you another question. Does any part of you feel like your husband’s car accident was your fault?
“OMG,” said Jane, “yes, I do, but why?”
When you were growing up, what message(s) did you hear and receive that you interpreted as “This is your fault”?
“Oh,” Jane said, “my parents were overprotective; they never allowed me to make mistakes on my own.”
OK, we are going to rewire that past imprinted tissue memory now. Hold your left hand out to the side, palm up, in a receiving manner. Now, imagine that your left side is you, your yin, your feminine energy. I am going to put a small plate on your left hand while you raise your arm up and repeat after me, “My left hand is me, my name is Jane, and I have control over this plate.”
Next I will put the plate on your right hand. Feeling the weight of the plate and keeping your arm rested, repeat after me, “My parents were overprotective of me, but they did their best.” Now, let’s rest a bit and allow this to integrate into your tissue memory.
When we are children, it is difficult to separate ourselves from our parents, but now as adults we have the power to reclaim ourselves. Next, we will focus on your solar plexus energy center, the area of the body that contains our willpower and personal empowerment. Lastly, I will draw a circle with my fingers on your solar plexus to open and strengthen that area of willpower. While I draw a circle on your body, I want you to say, “I need . . . I want . . . I . . .” and fill in the blank with any wish that comes to mind.
“OK,” Jane said. I asked her how she felt now.
“I feel completely different, relaxed, and calm,” said Jane. “What happened to me? I feel like a new person.”
If you would like to know how and why Jane neverhad another car accident again and discover for yourself the power of repatterning, I invite you to explore my proprietary method for yourself.